RIP Chapel

[Phyllis Stein]

I mean my friend just died and they are already talking shit on SS.

That shit won't be forgiven.

I'm 100% with you on that.

[Bisket]

I mean my friend just died and they are already talking shit on SS.

That shit won't be forgiven.

I'm 100% with you on that.

It will be my life's work while I am on that site.

[LC]

Once I am over the numbness, I think I will also make those people suffer.

I earned my Queen of Mean title. Time to put it to use.

[Venom]

I am seeing red right now. I can 't believe they would stoop that low.

Satannah should be handing out some bans for that. I mean permanent ones.

Not no oh well you can come back when you behave type shit....

[Venom]

Chapel was valued by me cause he was the real deal.

There was no fake shit with him.

He told it like it was. We spent a lot of times talking in Chat.

And a lot of times on the phone. And the conversations were always honest holding back no punches.

I told him that I would be there anytime that he needed me. I remember this last 4th of July him calling me and we talked for an hour about life and how we coped with our fathers and how hard it was to be loyal like we were.

When my Dad passed he was by my side. When I was going through it all he was by my side.

Whenever I was down about something we was like straighten up you can make it. We laughed about things we had a true friendship. From the beginning. I will never forget him. EVER.

He had one of the most commanding deep voices that I have ever heard. I mean he as a little younger than me but I felt that we were kindered spirits. We talked about the dark times. I never judged him he never judged me. I just wished we had more time. Just as with my Dad.

But Death is final. But that doesn't mean I stop missing them and still honor them. Chapel was so supportive about school and all the things that I am currently doing.

Yes I did love him as a brother. I spent all day crying and trying to remember all  the things that we talked about. I can kinda hear him say. "It is going to be alright man just keep at it homie I know that you will make it."

Matter a fact the last thing that he said to me was this, "Save up money and move away that is what I am doing homie."

Every word he said to me mattered. If he can see this right now I want him to know that.

[Seventh Mark]

Chapel was valued by me cause he was the real deal.

There was no fake shit with him.

He told it like it was. We spent a lot of times talking in Chat.

And a lot of times on the phone. And the conversations were always honest holding back no punches.

I told him that I would be there anytime that he needed me. I remember this last 4th of July him calling me and we talked for an hour about life and how we coped with our fathers and how hard it was to be loyal like we were.

When my Dad passed he was by my side. When I was going through it all he was by my side.

Whenever I was down about something we was like straighten up you can make it. We laughed about things we had a true friendship. From the beginning. I will never forget him. EVER.

He had one of the most commanding deep voices that I have ever heard. I mean he as a little younger than me but I felt that we were kindered spirits. We talked about the dark times. I never judged him he never judged me. I just wished we had more time. Just as with my Dad.

But Death is final. But that doesn't mean I stop missing them and still honor them. Chapel was so supportive about school and all the things that I am currently doing.

Yes I did love him as a brother. I spent all day crying and trying to remember all  the things that we talked about. I can kinda hear him say. "It is going to be alright man just keep at it homie I know that you will make it."

Matter a fact the last thing that he said to me was this, "Save up money and move away that is what I am doing homie."

Every word he said to me mattered. If he can see this right now I want him to know that.

I think... in my own way that I knew Chapel.... He was Honorable. And in that respect, I can see where has made an impact on you, and on many other people.

[Bisket]

He was many things to many people. But when you were his friend, you knew it. He was loyal to a fault and I truly think he would have done anything for a friend. We became close because we battled the same addictions, as a matter of fact a phone conversation with him was one of the many reasons I quit. He gave me confidence in myself and the courage to face my demons the whole time he was wrestling his own. It's not easy quitting the way I had to, but I always knew I had a friend to call on that understood me and what I was going through. I like to think that I was able to help him back, if even just a little bit. I had a lot more to say, but I can't type this without crying like a baby. So I will finish later.

[LC]

[Phyllis Stein]

Hahaha, I'll never forget that time he called up JFK when he found out I was stuck there for 36 hours and demanded that I have a bed to sleep on in a warm place.

My gay uncle Terin, that's who he told them he was. 

He was a good fucking guy, man, it's a shame he's gone.

[LC]

Haha. Nice. I can see Terin doing that.

[LC]

I remember when I was heartbroken and upset, Terin listened and tried to help me. He told me to forget about it and move on. He gave me some tough love.

[Bisket]

Hahaha, I'll never forget that time he called up JFK when he found out I was stuck there for 36 hours and demanded that I have a bed to sleep on in a warm place.

My gay uncle Terin, that's who he told them he was. 

He was a good fucking guy, man, it's a shame he's gone.

That's the kind of shit he would do.

[EngelhaftesElend]

Man, this sucks...Adam talked with me for hours about Terin today/yesterday. Talked about how even though we weren't as close these days, me and him were bonding quite a bit back in the day. And him and Neil were purdy close back then.

What is gonna bother me the most is that like I've always told him, he looks identical to my brother...so every week when I see my brother, all I'm gonna be able to see is Terin for a while.

I still have his Snapvine comment on my thingie...even though it was short and about Neil, I'm glad I have it right now.

[Uzziah]

When I first joined SS, me and Terin hated eachother. Slowly we began to talk more and in the end we had a few chats on YIM. He gave me a chance to prove I could behave rationally and we became friends, at least online. I didn't know him very well but I feel a huge sense of loss now that he's gone. It's true that he may have done some bad things in his life, but shit happens all the time and deep down Chapel could be very caring if you got to know him personally. He would never have betrayed a friend. I remember him once saying "that's a line you don't cross, EVER", and I believe his words. He used to talk Alan out of suicide when he was going through hard times, which shows he had a heart.

I only wish we could've had more time to get to know eachother T. You had and still have many people who care about you and you will be severely missed. You had a hard life and perhaps now you have finally found peace. It was good knowing you brother and you will never be forgotten.

RIP TERIN EHRLICH | AUGUST 4, 1981 - JANUARY 25, 2010

[BlackMagic]

I also didn't know him as well as a lot of people. I never talked to him on the phone, although I was not opposed to doing so if he had requested it.  However, we had a lot of fun on the forum. I tried to be supportive of him when he was with Erica because that was what he chose to do with his life at the time. He was in love and why not support him?  Despite having my reservations about her, I had resolved to realize, it's not my choice, so I will be there if at all possible and back him up on HIS decision. We all know how it worked out, and wish he never had to have his heart broken, but he followed his heart and no one can fault him for that. 

Things weren't always cool between us though. I fought with him just recently because I was hurt that he was being hurtful to some people I care about.  I know he had his reasons, but I felt he would understand as he had done so many times himself in that I was defending my friends. I believe he knew that and ultimately understood and respected why I fought with him about it. However, and without either of us apologizing to each other, we both got over it and simply moved on respectfully.  I think there was a silent understanding in that friends fight, shit happens, move on.

In his last days he sent me a few PMs. I could tell he was deeply hurting but he was quite vague. I didn't want to push or press for answers. I simply told him I was not a mind reader in the hopes he would open up more, and he did, but he was still vague. 

One thing I had noticed is that when Terin truly wants to bear his soul, he will do so when he's ready which is why I respected his being vague and let him know he could talk to me any time he needed.

He was a good person to me even after our spat and for that I am thankful.  It's not often people can be so forgiving, especially when someone doesn't apologize for their treatment of them, but he was forgiving and I will never forget that.

If anything I've learned from all of this, we can only understand one's personal pain to an extent. No matter how much we try to get inside one's mind, even if someone bears their soul, we will still never understand the pain they feel. But to still show care, concern and compassion to others while you're so deeply in pain yourself just shows me what a good person he was deep down. 

For some who think he was a piece of shit, because that has been directly expressed to me, my answer is this...we ALL have done some horrible things in our lives and we're no better than anyone else. We all have our skeletons and we all have our secrets so do NOT judge thinking you're above anyone else. The one thing that set Terin apart is that he freely admitted it as most are afraid to.

I tip my glass to Terin and I want to thank you Terin for teaching me to be as open and honest as is possible. CHEERS my friend and may you rest in PEACE.